Random entry time! Two stories and then a question.
We met in college, and we had a lot of similar interests and goals. We had the same odd humor and were able to confide in one other very easily. I was there for them for each of their relationships. They were there for me even after college, when my now husband had to work late and long hours. I wasn’t always alone because they were there to keep me company from time to time. Even after our lives have changed (marriages, jobs, different cities), every now and then we will talk and catch up. They always make me laugh. Though months may go by without talking to one another, we are still able to chat as easily as if we were still in those college days.
When we met, we were both very professional and cordial. It wasn’t until later that we discovered we actually had a things in common. We shared a lot of the same views in life and career. We ended up being similar project together and thus were had to talk nearly daily. We were always very professional. In the end, since we interacted so much, a friendship developed that was somewhat similar to what I felt with friend A. Although we are no longer in the same industry, we keep in touch from time to time. Again, we are able to chat as if time wasn’t lost.
What’s the significance of these two friends?
They are both male. Because I had such a great friendship with these two guys, some people inferred or joked that there was something more. Some couldn’t believe it was possible to have a platonic relationship.
My husband was always in the picture. He never became jealous because he trusted me in my choice of friends. These two friends have their own relationships. Ours has never ever been romantic.
So, it’s strange to me that some people couldn’t handle if their significant other has friends of the opposite sex. I know a few who have said if they were the wife / girlfriend of my friends, they would feel a bit uneasy about me. I know a few who prefer that their spouses or boyfriends do not befriend women.
I think it’s very possible to have platonic relationships. Neither my husband or I am uncomfortable about them. I think the key aspect of this all is that I spend the same amount of time with my male friends as I would with the female ones. There is no difference. And, we all make the time and effort for our spouses and families.
What’s your opinion?